Broken Trust

Can it be forgiven?

Trust is a vital part of a loving relationship. Once trust is broken, can it be forgiven?  No, I don’t believe so. Can a relationship be rebuilt once trust has been broken?  Again, I don’t believe it can. 

Of course, I’m biased. I had a husband who thought I was too rigid because I wouldn’t accept his infidelities and get past them. I suppose it depends on how the trust was broken and the two people in the relationship, but I think there would always be an element of distrust left behind.

Trust is very much like a spider’s thread.

A spider spins a thread. Alone, it’s weightless and fragile, but very strong and it stretches and bends. When joined with other threads in a web, it’s still very fragile, but it’s so strong it can capture heavy insects and hold them, even in high wind.

Let’s imagine attaching one end of a strand of trust to one partner, stretching it gently and attaching the other end to the other partner. Trust joins them together in a strong bond —it stretches and bends, allowing freedom, but it’s still very fragile and based on mutual respect and love.

As the relationship grows, trust can also grow. Like the spider’s web, trust is strong enough to withstand many storms. It’s up to each partner not to break the bond.

As to whether trust can be repaired or rebuilt, once broken … it’s up to the partner who was hurt by broken trust.  A spider can easily spin a new web, but trust is almost impossible to repair, once it’s broken. There will always be an element of distrust left behind.

As for me, break my trust once, shame on you.  Break my trust twice …sorry, you don’t live here anymore …