Change, Patience, and Time

Time can be a Trickster

After a post I wrote the other day, someone messaged me: “I tried this reset button you wrote about. I’ve tried it several times, but it didn’t change my life at all.”

Was he just being difficult? I don’t know.

When I wrote back, I told him, “I don’t know how big the change is that you’re looking for –-and I don’t want to know, that’s too personal, but some changes can’t and won’t happen overnight. I’m sorry if somehow I’ve given you the wrong impression.”

Maybe he’s looking for a lifetime partner for real love. Things like that don’t happen overnight. Those kinds of change take patience galore.

Along those same lines, some changes are plainly out of our control. Maybe he should re-evaluate the kind of change he’s looking for, if it is.

Where did this idea come from that makes us think we can’t change things and make a difference in our life? We have the time and we can make a lot of changes. They don’t have to be huge –-sometimes the best things come from the tiniest changes.

Think about it for a minute. Life is made up mostly of tiny ‘OOPS’ moments, millions of them, and with each one that we change, or maybe correct –-though they’re tiny and hard to recognize, the course of our life is altered in some way.

Time can also be a trickster. It moves along so slowly that one day you glance in a mirror like you have a thousand times before, but this time when you look, you do a double take. You don’t recognize the grandpop, or grandma looking back at you. You wonder, how the hell did getting old happen so fast?

It wasn’t fast at all. You just didn’t notice it because you were wearing time’s blinders. That’s the trickster side of time saying, “Hello there ... surprise, surprise!”

You control your change button. Every minute carries a new chance to change your life, even a small part of it. It’s all up to you. Your life can be pretty much whatever you want it to be, but you have to have patience.

Set your sights on a finish line, a goal, with a change requiring patience. All along the path to the goal, you tweak it to stay on course. The beauty of setting a goal is, sometimes you are presented with a new and more appealing path. Your choice --and that’s yet another change.

We all have changes that happen out of our control. But there are far more changes that we can control, even something as simple as changing our attitude toward what’s out of our control can make a huge difference.

Tonight when you go to bed and your head is on your pillow, decide on one small positive change for tomorrow —who knows, that one little change just might change the course of your entire life ...

“You cannot change the people who choose to be around you, but you can change the people you choose to be around.” —Roy T. Bennett

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