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Dave Karpowicz's avatar

CJ This is outstanding! If there was a universal parenting class, this should be included. Well done! D

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C.J. Heck's avatar

Dave, you just made my whole day brighter. Thank you for your kind comment. It’s clear you know and understand.

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Albert Cory's avatar

True. And while I don't have kids, I hope you won't mind if I also say:

The same thing applies to dogs. "No hitting, no yelling, no prong collar, no shock collar" is the rule f applied to the wonderful dog in my picture, and he thought every human was just a friend he hadn't met yet.

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C.J. Heck's avatar

Thank you for your comments, Albert, but I have to disagree with you about the shock collar. There are 7 different levels of shock and we set ours on level 1 and corrected a barking problem with our chihuahua. She was barking almost continually when we got her from the shelter.

She barked at cars, trucks, squirrels, other dogs, people walking by, someone at the door, the phone ringing, Robert and me when we hugged, you get the picture. We had to do something and a well-meaning veterinarian suggested the shock collar. He said the collar was humane and what our dog was constantly doing was not.

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Albert Cory's avatar

There are two words I notice here that give the game away: “chihuahua” and “shelter.”

Kudos to you for taking it on, though.

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C.J. Heck's avatar

Hello Albert. I was always like you until we got our little chihuahua at the shelter. You missed something when you read my comment to you. "... we set ours on level 1 and corrected a barking problem." The magic word is "corrected". It only took about a week. Robert and I both held the collar against our skin and made enough noise to set it off. #1 was hardly a shock at all, but it's all that it took. Problem solved and our whole family is now happy and at peace. Thank you again for your comments. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do ...

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David Perlmutter's avatar

The absolute truth....

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C.J. Heck's avatar

Thanks, David. I’m amazed at the number of people who don’t “see” it …

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Bijibilla Rama Rao's avatar

Children are innocent! They feel free to enjoy and observe us in every step and follow us. As parents we should guide and support them to go in right way. Slowly, they grow and think on their own and create their own path based on the life what they lead at home, neighborhood, school, friends will influence a lot to become the useful citizen of this great universe. Parents and teachers will play an active role in this regard.

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C.J. Heck's avatar

Well said, Bijibilla. Pretending plays a large part, too, as they try on what they’ve been learning about life and what they want to be when they grow up.

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