What Brought the Most Change in Your Life?
Change: A Necessary Evil
All through life we go through change —all kinds of change. We’ve spent our entire lives wishing for, surrounded by, forced to, immersed in, wondering about, and planning for ... even more change.
The most significant changes began in childhood, when our parents taught us the first of many ways we needed to change. Most were necessary so we would be accepted by others and not be offensive to society.
Of course, most of the changes came about, because we got caught doing something wrong in the first place:
"Chew with your mouth closed."
"Do not touch/scratch/fondle your private parts in public."
"Cover your mouth when you burp/sneeze/cough."
"Do not fart/pass gas/have a barking spider in public."
"Don't you dare say that word again in this house!"
As a child, it seemed everyone we knew, and even some we didn't know, wanted us to change. Then as we got older, our change came more from within:
We wanted better grades, so we changed our study habits.
We had a bad hair day, so we asked a friend who cut and styled their hair.
Our ‘friend’ pushed us down in the playground — so we made a new friend.
We said a bad word, got our mouth washed out with soap, and only said it again in private, or with our friends.
As adults, change came because we chose to make a change:
This job/boss sucks ...
My nose/belly is too big ...
My boobs are too small, or too big ...
This car is old ...
I hate these wrinkles …
I’m tired of having gray hair ...
The changes we resent most are those demanded by someone we love. It hurts to be told we would be loved, only if we change something about ourself.
Then when you reach my age, you suddenly wake up one morning and realize you’ve grown resistant to making any more changes. There's a certain comfort that comes with keeping things the way we finally have them.
There was one very important change I wanted to make during my life. It was a change that not everyone should make because it requires special decision-making, dedication, sacrifice, and a long time commitment.
I wanted this change more than anything in the world-—that change was going from a woman to a mother, so I could have a child.
And with that, the cycle of change began all over again with a new generation.
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The greatest change I face is loneliness! I was so used to having my son and all the kitties here. but everyone moved out in December! Oh, he comes now and then, does chores and leaves. I only wished he would stay a little longer but he says he can't. But a few times I have made lunch or ordered take out for the two of us. So, that's the biggest change I am facing right now!
Change. Loose coins in pocket. Good to donate to a cause. Change clothes cause they are dirty words and need to be washed or changed to make a ‘new’ you to make a scene. And be seen in the theatre of life. Change grows on you like phrases in one ear out the other. We change food. Assimilation to grow taller, wider and longer nails, hair to be cut change color like chameleons. The phrase I was told “act your age” never knew what that meant. What age was I? I’m old enough to know better and wiser but still haven’t figured out what age I am. Age less = you see yourself as who you want to be and become that person and be happy to change your outlook on life to see what others see you as a loving person.