Definitely a situation of growing up overnight. I’m sure the reality was months if not years if ever. Can’t imagine how it felt. Also a case of seeing both the good and bad of people at the same time. September 13 may be a dark day, but maybe Doug is communicating through the remembrances. Using that, keep the good thoughts ahead of the bitter ones.
Thank you, Ken. Yes, it’s important to keep the good thoughts ahead of the bitter ones. I just thought it was time now. I felt enough time has passed, to tell the whole story. Writing about what really happened is all a part of my healing.
Thank you again, Ken, for your support and for taking time to comment.
This had to be so difficult to write, for reasons upon reasons, yet what strength to come to this place of speaking your truth through what had to be a most excruciating time in your life. I cannot imagine. You have presented all of these painful moments surrounding your grief with incredible compassion and grace; two things you should have received from your in-laws. This piece is truly a mountain climbed in healing. Many blessings to you for sharing it.
Bless your heart, Wendy, you are very intuitive and I thank you for your kind words. Yes, it was difficult to write, but it was very cathartic. It took a lot of years to finally be comfortable with writing and sharing.
Hi, your story deserves so many more than 15 likes but I’m sure you know that’s not what it’s all about. Yes, grief does weird things to people. Wonderful when you can grow and still acknowledge you’d love to have had children together.
Hello Marilyn. Thank you for your kind comments. You’re right when you say our writing isn’t about likes.
I write for continued healing; I write because I can’t NOT write; and I write to leave something of me behind when I’m gone, something good, something that might make a difference.
C.J., you wear your widow's weeds with dignity and cleansing virtue. War and grief are at least as old as time and redemption. Your words, your tender recollection are alchemists' work in the athanor of transformation.
I’m sorry this happened to you. I’m thankful for the healing that is yours. I’m thankful that you’re able to share this. Sad that, In that era, this story was repeated many times. Blessings…
Oh wow C.J. So much for you to deal with, including unnecessary unkindness from your in laws. How mean! But yes, they were suffering too. Thank goodness for your parents. How they stepped in is admirable.💫
Hello Trudi. Thank you for your kind comments and your support. Yes, this was saved for last to write about for my continued healing. I wanted to make sure I would be writing to heal and not out of any leftover bitterness. I was pretty sure that was behind me, but until today I didn’t feel ready to write about it.
geez. what a tender time in so many ways. I'm grateful you had your family, but know that it would never take the pain away from the loss of your love and the difficulties you went through. I'm so glad to see your resilience and how you've come back alive and made your life a testament of strength and love. thank you for sharing your story.
Hello Megan. Thank you for your comments and your support. I am a big proponent of writing for healing and this part was somewhat hard for me because of the emotions involved. I had to separate the emotion from the bare feelings and today in meditation, I found I would be able to write about it. I can feel a weight lifted and the healing that follows.
Thank you again, Megan. Your comments have meant a lot to me.
Definitely a situation of growing up overnight. I’m sure the reality was months if not years if ever. Can’t imagine how it felt. Also a case of seeing both the good and bad of people at the same time. September 13 may be a dark day, but maybe Doug is communicating through the remembrances. Using that, keep the good thoughts ahead of the bitter ones.
Thank you, Ken. Yes, it’s important to keep the good thoughts ahead of the bitter ones. I just thought it was time now. I felt enough time has passed, to tell the whole story. Writing about what really happened is all a part of my healing.
Thank you again, Ken, for your support and for taking time to comment.
This had to be so difficult to write, for reasons upon reasons, yet what strength to come to this place of speaking your truth through what had to be a most excruciating time in your life. I cannot imagine. You have presented all of these painful moments surrounding your grief with incredible compassion and grace; two things you should have received from your in-laws. This piece is truly a mountain climbed in healing. Many blessings to you for sharing it.
Bless your heart, Wendy, you are very intuitive and I thank you for your kind words. Yes, it was difficult to write, but it was very cathartic. It took a lot of years to finally be comfortable with writing and sharing.
Thank you again, Wendy.
Hi, your story deserves so many more than 15 likes but I’m sure you know that’s not what it’s all about. Yes, grief does weird things to people. Wonderful when you can grow and still acknowledge you’d love to have had children together.
Hello Marilyn. Thank you for your kind comments. You’re right when you say our writing isn’t about likes.
I write for continued healing; I write because I can’t NOT write; and I write to leave something of me behind when I’m gone, something good, something that might make a difference.
I understand that completely. Easiest thing for me to say is me too. But it is never easy.
Thank you, Marilyn. I know you understand.
You had some great parents!
I truly did, thank you, Marilyn. I miss them every day.
C.J., you wear your widow's weeds with dignity and cleansing virtue. War and grief are at least as old as time and redemption. Your words, your tender recollection are alchemists' work in the athanor of transformation.
Thank you, Bob. Thank you so much.
God rest his soul 🙏 . So sorry your lovely romance was so brutally cut short!
You’re very kind, Annette, with a heart of gold. Thank you.
I’m sorry this happened to you. I’m thankful for the healing that is yours. I’m thankful that you’re able to share this. Sad that, In that era, this story was repeated many times. Blessings…
Thank you for your caring comments, Charles, and for taking the time to share your thoughts.
Oh wow C.J. So much for you to deal with, including unnecessary unkindness from your in laws. How mean! But yes, they were suffering too. Thank goodness for your parents. How they stepped in is admirable.💫
Hello Trudi. Thank you for your kind comments and your support. Yes, this was saved for last to write about for my continued healing. I wanted to make sure I would be writing to heal and not out of any leftover bitterness. I was pretty sure that was behind me, but until today I didn’t feel ready to write about it.
Thank you again, Trudi.
I understand that and there was no trace of bitterness in your words. Only sadness and compassion.
geez. what a tender time in so many ways. I'm grateful you had your family, but know that it would never take the pain away from the loss of your love and the difficulties you went through. I'm so glad to see your resilience and how you've come back alive and made your life a testament of strength and love. thank you for sharing your story.
Hello Megan. Thank you for your comments and your support. I am a big proponent of writing for healing and this part was somewhat hard for me because of the emotions involved. I had to separate the emotion from the bare feelings and today in meditation, I found I would be able to write about it. I can feel a weight lifted and the healing that follows.
Thank you again, Megan. Your comments have meant a lot to me.
God, that is everything brave one. I'm with you.
Yes you are and I thank you so very much.
Hello Rick. Thank you sincerely for your condolences. That’s appreciated so much. You are thoughtful to have commented.