C.J. - I recognize some degree of frustration in your post. My experiences of grief have paled next to yours and even so, I know that there is no way to help others get through their sorrow except to encourage them to care for themselves and as you so richly explained it, "put one foot in front of the other". It reminded me of this specific passage from Rudyard Kipling:
I want to thank you for your generous and kind words, Dave. They’re so full of wisdom and compassion. I love the passage by Kipling. I think I’m going to print the passage and tape it to my desk so I can read it often.
We all suffer from loss , whether it is a wife or husband . mother or father , or a child . Will you hurt for a long time very much . Would any of them wish for you to give up not at all . So we have to just think and see the happy times together with them and truly move on . We can't stop death , we can stop the emotional sorrow we suffer in our brain . I told a lady i was with right before my heart surgery . If I pass look for someone else and fall in love again . Nothing you can do to help me . Same reason now , Having cancer and heart problems again , drs say find someone to love . That won't work I would never look for love with health as it is . Not fair to any woman . Great post C J hugs and love to you and family
Sometimes your wisdom astounds me, Mitch. Thank you for your take on all of this. You have a good mind and a wonderful loving heart. I don’t want you to ever change. Stay the sweet friend I know.
I wish I had a lot of wisdom C J . But thank you , My friend . I just go by my heart , And things i learned in life . I won't ever change C J , well can't say ever when i get closer to the end most likely will leave substack .So friends like you Don't know how bad i am hurting or how a lone i feel . Hugs and love to you and family C J
When you get to the place where you are ready to leave Substack, please tell me and I will send you a message with my cell so we can text. Would that be okay with you? I don’t want you to ever feel alone.
One foot in front of the other was advice my mother gave me and I have repeated to my own family over the years. That and keep your eyes on Jesus have keep my out of the fetal position most days.
I have the feeling that you are a strong woman, George-Ann, and that’s what will get you through most anything, that and love. Love is a guiding factor in more areas than you can imagine.
The bad times don’t last forever and that’s what I hold onto. I’ve come to see that’s true. Please take care, my friend.
This is something to which I give a lot of thought -- especially since we both suffer from ultimately fatal conditions. In my case autoimmune disease complicates the picture, but I am driven by an urge to live long enough to be of service to my wife, who is not physically strong. My internal systems are deteriorating, but I can still care for her. An unfortunate factor for me is the overall poor character of health care in my city. We have been fortunate -- at least we think so -- to find competent physicians here and in Abq. For my wife. Regrettably I have had little luck in that regard, and my primary seems increasingly to practice assembly line medicine.
I’m so sorry, Bob. I didn’t know about your condition, nor your wife’s. You both have a lot on your plates. It doesn’t help that healthcare isn’t behind you with this so you’re all working together on it. I’m sorry you’re going through that, too.
I’m here for either of you, should you want to vent or just talk. I wish I could do more —if you think of anything I can do, please let me know.
Hi C.J, yes it is my yardstick too … l have done the hardest thing l will ever need to do in this life ☺️❤️🩹🙏
It has made you more loving and it’s made you stronger, too, sweet friend. We don’t know what we are capable of until we have to be.
Thank you C.J, no we don’t know what we are capable of … thank you for your kindness and compassion 😊☺️
You’re welcome. Easy-Peasy! ❤️😊
CJ, Beautifully written. D
Thank you, Dave. You’ve brightened my whole day. ❤️
C.J. - I recognize some degree of frustration in your post. My experiences of grief have paled next to yours and even so, I know that there is no way to help others get through their sorrow except to encourage them to care for themselves and as you so richly explained it, "put one foot in front of the other". It reminded me of this specific passage from Rudyard Kipling:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on”
Bless you and thank you for sharing your wisdom.
I want to thank you for your generous and kind words, Dave. They’re so full of wisdom and compassion. I love the passage by Kipling. I think I’m going to print the passage and tape it to my desk so I can read it often.
I wish you love
We all suffer from loss , whether it is a wife or husband . mother or father , or a child . Will you hurt for a long time very much . Would any of them wish for you to give up not at all . So we have to just think and see the happy times together with them and truly move on . We can't stop death , we can stop the emotional sorrow we suffer in our brain . I told a lady i was with right before my heart surgery . If I pass look for someone else and fall in love again . Nothing you can do to help me . Same reason now , Having cancer and heart problems again , drs say find someone to love . That won't work I would never look for love with health as it is . Not fair to any woman . Great post C J hugs and love to you and family
Sometimes your wisdom astounds me, Mitch. Thank you for your take on all of this. You have a good mind and a wonderful loving heart. I don’t want you to ever change. Stay the sweet friend I know.
Love and hugs
I wish I had a lot of wisdom C J . But thank you , My friend . I just go by my heart , And things i learned in life . I won't ever change C J , well can't say ever when i get closer to the end most likely will leave substack .So friends like you Don't know how bad i am hurting or how a lone i feel . Hugs and love to you and family C J
When you get to the place where you are ready to leave Substack, please tell me and I will send you a message with my cell so we can text. Would that be okay with you? I don’t want you to ever feel alone.
hugs and love
That would be fine C J . hugs to you and family .
💕❤️💞
One foot in front of the other was advice my mother gave me and I have repeated to my own family over the years. That and keep your eyes on Jesus have keep my out of the fetal position most days.
I have the feeling that you are a strong woman, George-Ann, and that’s what will get you through most anything, that and love. Love is a guiding factor in more areas than you can imagine.
The bad times don’t last forever and that’s what I hold onto. I’ve come to see that’s true. Please take care, my friend.
This is something to which I give a lot of thought -- especially since we both suffer from ultimately fatal conditions. In my case autoimmune disease complicates the picture, but I am driven by an urge to live long enough to be of service to my wife, who is not physically strong. My internal systems are deteriorating, but I can still care for her. An unfortunate factor for me is the overall poor character of health care in my city. We have been fortunate -- at least we think so -- to find competent physicians here and in Abq. For my wife. Regrettably I have had little luck in that regard, and my primary seems increasingly to practice assembly line medicine.
I’m so sorry, Bob. I didn’t know about your condition, nor your wife’s. You both have a lot on your plates. It doesn’t help that healthcare isn’t behind you with this so you’re all working together on it. I’m sorry you’re going through that, too.
I’m here for either of you, should you want to vent or just talk. I wish I could do more —if you think of anything I can do, please let me know.
You’re a good friend, Bob, and I care.