Well, to be honest, most of what I wrote was fantasy —I’m sure everyone knows that, but the real part is that I do not want anything to do with funerals, funeral homes, etc.
Not wanting a funeral isn’t batty. It’s probably more common than you think. My wife and I have talked about it. Cremation, maybe a memorial. The first time I went through that was with my brother. He never wanted a big to do. He always felt it was all phony, people he didn’t much see or care for showing up. He always said he didn’t want any of the sappy “I remember when stories”. We did the cremation, had a memorial dinner shortly after. It turned into what he didn’t want when some got up and told their stories. I tried to curtail them as much as possible as he wished. It was kept to a minimum and I think he would have been satisfied how it all went. We buried his ashes near where my parents are buried. Again, I think he’d be okay with that since he was on his own away from everyone else who is buried in the same cemetery.
I think your plans are pretty cool. You’re telling everyone what you want, and even why. It shouldn’t be too hard for them to comply and for you to look down on your loved ones with a smile as they at least try to honor your wishes. I’m sure you’d have some clout from above to send down a lightening bolt as a warning if they don’t 😉
I had to laugh about the lightening bolt! That was precious! I know there are a few I wouldn't mind seeing get zapped that way! Thank you for your comment, Ken.
Great idea! I don't want a funeral either! I hate funerals! Just cremate me and scatter my ashes under a rose bush somewhere! I love Roses'! Or put my ashes in a fancy urn and keep me close! Or bury my ashes among my mother, father and brother.I believe they are buried close to each other. My mother and father have one tombstone between them.(My brother had bought it) My other brother, I believe has his own tombstone. I haven't been to the cemetery since my mother died! I hate cemeteries! But you can see the cemetery from my back balcony and back porch! I live in a valley and the Catholic cemetery is on one hill and the Protestant cemetery is on the other hill!
Oh my goodness! I don't want a funeral either. Like you, I could write a whole substack on the reasons for my decision on that matter.
Well, to be honest, most of what I wrote was fantasy —I’m sure everyone knows that, but the real part is that I do not want anything to do with funerals, funeral homes, etc.
Not wanting a funeral isn’t batty. It’s probably more common than you think. My wife and I have talked about it. Cremation, maybe a memorial. The first time I went through that was with my brother. He never wanted a big to do. He always felt it was all phony, people he didn’t much see or care for showing up. He always said he didn’t want any of the sappy “I remember when stories”. We did the cremation, had a memorial dinner shortly after. It turned into what he didn’t want when some got up and told their stories. I tried to curtail them as much as possible as he wished. It was kept to a minimum and I think he would have been satisfied how it all went. We buried his ashes near where my parents are buried. Again, I think he’d be okay with that since he was on his own away from everyone else who is buried in the same cemetery.
I think your plans are pretty cool. You’re telling everyone what you want, and even why. It shouldn’t be too hard for them to comply and for you to look down on your loved ones with a smile as they at least try to honor your wishes. I’m sure you’d have some clout from above to send down a lightening bolt as a warning if they don’t 😉
I had to laugh about the lightening bolt! That was precious! I know there are a few I wouldn't mind seeing get zapped that way! Thank you for your comment, Ken.
Great idea! I don't want a funeral either! I hate funerals! Just cremate me and scatter my ashes under a rose bush somewhere! I love Roses'! Or put my ashes in a fancy urn and keep me close! Or bury my ashes among my mother, father and brother.I believe they are buried close to each other. My mother and father have one tombstone between them.(My brother had bought it) My other brother, I believe has his own tombstone. I haven't been to the cemetery since my mother died! I hate cemeteries! But you can see the cemetery from my back balcony and back porch! I live in a valley and the Catholic cemetery is on one hill and the Protestant cemetery is on the other hill!
Write down your wishes, Connie, maybe even get them notarized, or your family may do what you don't want --remember, they will be filled with sadness.